TJ Lane

While I write crime blogs frequently, often daily and I believe in rehabilitation and redemption, I hope TJ Lane does not receive one piece of mail in prison for the rest of his life (I'm aware there are deranged women who WILL profess undying love, etc.) I for one will never publish his address due to his lack of remorse or his view on his need to be reformed.
What he did during sentencing and his subsequent escape was unforgivable. He did it all for infamy which is painfully obvious.

His original crime was a shooting at Chardon High School where he killed three students and injured three more with a .22 caliber hand gun. I'm sorry he felt that he was socially awkward or whatever his issue was, but murder is never the answer. He has zero remorse for his actions (which he has as much said) and zero compassion for the families of those he killed and injured.

I have a decade's worth of experience in writing to prisoners. There are some in prison that can not be reformed and they will tell you as much. I did it out of a desire to provide christian fellowship only (not romance or friendship without Christianity or encouragement). I had one man tell he didn't want to worship God, he wanted to be God. I therefore chose to no longer right him as that is a direct line into his way of thinking. He enjoyed killing and playing God. TJ Lane needs to rot alone in his maximum security prison where he should stay for eternity.

Young Ladies?

I'm sorry, but I simply don't believe that parents and society are teaching girls what they need to know about dating, relationships, sex and more. Watch one season of paternity court (excluding the older ladies behaving badly), divorce court, or Maury. While these would be extreme cases no doubt or they wouldn't make the cut, they are a canary in the coal mine to a point.

Yes, young ladies can sleep with whomever they like. That's a given, however, that doesn't make it a good idea. It's an even worse idea when you are doing it without being on birth control and using condomns. If you are not careful, you could end up with a baby and not knowing which encounter resulted in parenthood. I've seen as many as sixteen men tested for one baby. YES sometimes the father's are just paranoid or attempting to shirk responsibility, but those cases are the exception rather then the rule. I watched one delusional young lady "reject" the DNA results as a deceased man WAS in fact the father, even though science proved otherwise.

Every young girl needs to know that a baby will not "keep" a man, especially if he has other children he does not support or parent. No, yours will not be the "one", nor will he settle down because you are special. Watch one season of Fatal Attraction and you will quickly learn many women are in fact killed because they are pregnant with a child the father doesn't want and she refuses to abort. According to the World Health Organization, "Evidence from the USA suggests that intimate partner violence during pregnancy is a risk factor for women’s increased risk of being killed by an intimate partner. For example, an examination of police and medical examiner records in 11 US cities showed that pregnancy significantly increased women’s risk of becoming a victim of intimate partner homicide and that men who abuse their partners during pregnancy seem to be particularly dangerous and more likely to commit homicide". Encourage young women to use birth control regularly and protection.

It is "unfair" that women with many sexual partners are judged, while men appear not to be (though they are judged for mistreating women). The truth is a man is less likely to consider you the "one" if he knows you have been very promiscuous. Women are rarely lacking for male companionship. Sex is easy to come by, no pun intended, but if you are looking to settle down, marry and have children, consider your goals when deciding whether or not you should hook up or have anonymous sex. It does actually matter. You are certainly free to celebrate your liberation, but don't be surprised if it affects your ability to meet specific goals.

You body is yours and it is in fact special. It's not something you want to share with just anyone. Not everyone is worthy of your time and efforts. Get to know yourself and your worth before seeking out a romantic partner. If you can't and don't appreciate yours strengths and character, why would anyone else? To be more precise, why would you attract someone who would? You attract what you ARE, not who you want. No matter who together you seem on the outside, all your inner demons will attract someone in the same position. That's simply how it works.

As women, we need to worry less about our sexual freedoms and do better.

Sanity and Civility?

This is not my only blog. I blog about crime - those featured on crime shows like For My Man and Snapped, as well as crimes that are not national news stories. There is no shortage of things to write about. Every day at least three or four stories come to light that I take note of to write about as time allows. There are so many stories out there, my blogs (multiples) are barely a drop in the bucket.

Today I heard about Cadesha Michelle Bishop, a twenty five year old Las Vegas woman. She was on public transportation bus with a seventy four year old man with the last name of Fournier. She had been cursing out other passengers and he told her to be nice to the other passengers. That's ALL he said. He used no racial slurs nor curse words. When the bus stopped and Fournier moved to exit the bus, Bishop got behind him and pushed him so hard he never touched the steps of the bus and struck his head on the sidewalk. He initially refused medical help but later went to the hospital. He died a month later of his injuries. Bishop's life is essentaially over as Nevada has stiff penalties for murder. She was clearly visible in the video of the event.

All over someone telling her to be nice!

Young people have zero respect for anyone - elders, authority etc. Everyone is fair game for their rage. I would still definitely do something if I saw someone being assaulted (I am not strong enough to intervene and I don't know how to fight) but I would call 911 and take photos of the suspect. I would do something. However, correcting someone for bad behavior in public I will not do for the simple fact that you do not know what others are capable of anymore. You can not trust even in front of witnesses, that you will not be assaulted. The odds are you will.

Think carefully before you speak, it could just get you killed in this crazy world we live in.

Beatrice Camper

The story of Beatrice, and Terry Lee Camper and John Murray is a truly twisted story.

Beatrice met John Murry in New York City, and the two fell in love. He was in essence a thug who went to prison

for murder. Terry met Beatrice when she had children. He took good care of her children and worked hard to provide for a family he didn't create. Unbeknownst to Terry, Beatrice was carrying on a passionate affair with John Murray via letters and phone calls from state prison. Terry wasn't exciting enough for her. The two conspired to kill him for his life insurance and then go on to produce pornography.

The truth is Beatrice had a good man in Terry. He was a hard worker and a good provider and father. He lacked the danger that John offered her and it cost him his life. Her crime story was featured on snapped and fatal attraction.

Gentlemen, especially good men need to pay attention to who they date and fall in love with.  If a woman has a history of dating thugs and having children with them, they will always prefer a bad man over a good one. The chances of being used for money is very great. Bad boys might be fun, but they are typically not good providers due to their criminal records. They also spend a good deal of time behind bars.

Beatrice, who believes in self preservation ultimately plead guilty and testified against John Murray. For her role in the murder, she was sentenced to fifteen years to life. You can view Terry's memorial here.

You can write to her at:

Beatrice Camper, 14G0569 
Bedford Hills Correctional Facility
247 Harris Rd
Bedford Hills, NY 10507